Just Friends? Oh Please.

I know you have all heard it before (and lived it for that matter). The girl who has been friends with a guy for years—feels like she knows him well enough that there’s absolutely no chance in hell he’ll “like like” her. Then, surprise, surprise, he confesses his love in one way or another. This not only ruins the “great friendship” but forces the girl to hurt one of her friends. Awkward, unwanted, unwarranted—all of the above. Yet guys seem to be watching too many chick flicks to realize that guy friends shouldn’t be more.

So here’s a list for those guys who are desperately in love with one of their girl FRIENDS to refer to when deciding whether or not to make the leap and go for them.

1. If you have known her for more than six months and you have both been single and she has yet to make any sort of move let it remain just a friendship.
2. Just because she asks you about you and your girlfriend doesn’t mean she has a thing for you.
3. She comes to you when guys hurt her? Yeah, she goes to her girl friends too—this doesn’t mean she has a thing for you.
4. She gets along just GREAT with you and your guy friends. Why not just have her fit in as your girl? Yeah, that’s a horrible idea. She fits in great because she doesn’t feel the pressure of being in a relationship. It’s probable that she just likes to kick back with you (and I don’t mean kick back the sheets).
5. You tried it once and it didn’t work. She said it was “weird”. Take her hint, don’t try it again.
6. She flirts with your friends. Okay guys, I highly doubt she is trying to make you jealous, quit justifying it that way. She wants to make it clear to you she’s not interested.
7. You did it, you made the move—and she ran away (literally). Please just let her be for a month or two, you just messed with her view on the world. Her processing the fact that you like her does NOT mean that she secretly loves you and is preparing for a relationship.

If you decide not to take my advice and, heaven forbid, tell her you like her. Don't do it during a night out with friends. If alcohol is involved, even worse idea. Do it sober, and alone. Not with a ton of people to witness her ignoring you.